First Date: Kiss or no kiss?
August 15, 12:12 AM Boston Dating Examiner
Alisa Chagnon

First dates can be train wrecks or magical meetings. If you have a first date and you do find it magical…or even if you feel a bit of magic, the big question is going to come up at the end of the date, it’s unavoidable: Kiss or no kiss! Let’s take a look at when this is a bad idea and when it’s a great idea!

Should you kiss on the first date? First kisses, if done between two people who like each other and think that they may have found someone special…are a magical moment…and not one that should be taken lightly.

There are definitely first dates in which kissing is a bad idea. If you’ve ignored the advice to not drink a lot and your buzzing like a bee…you’ll want to be very careful about not allowing yourself to dive into a long make out session. Why? Well, several reasons. If your date did not drink as much as you (and let’s hope so, so that there was a designated driver!) he or she will not appreciate a sloppy, alcohol filled kiss. Kissing on the first date when you’re drunk is the best way to not get a 2nd date! Your date will also wonder if you get drunk and make out with all of your first dates.

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If you had a first date that went badly or “just okay” and you really don’t want to have a good night kiss, what do you do if the other person has already started leaning in for it? Definitely don’t kiss just because you feel pressured to. Let’s take a look at what to say and what to do.

Not every first date goes as wonderful as you hoped and there will be first dates in which you don’t feel a connection to the other person. But this doesn’t mean that they won’t feel a connection with you! So what do you do if you’re ready to say “goodbye” and “good night” and your date is leaning in for the kiss that you don’t want?

Play it cool! You don’t have to be embarrassed and you don’t need to embarrass them. All you really need to do is turn you head, but don’t back away as if they have rabies. Simple turn your face a bit so that they kiss lands on your cheek. They may be surprised, but all you need to do is add on some words that will leave you both happy….”That’s so sweet, but I make it a rule to not kiss on the 1st date”. There, you said it, they don’t feel as if you have singled them out and you’re not stuck kissing someone that you don’t want to!

If your date asks you why (which they should not , but you know how it is…many people say things that they should not!), simply tell them that you made this rule because you are dating people and if you kissed everyone you dated, you’d be in the Guinness Book of World Records for “most kisses in a year”. This lets the other person know that you are only casually dating (so they hopefully won’t get carried away, thinking they are in “love at first sight” when you don’t want to see them again) and leaves you free to go home without any pressure to kiss.

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